Brian Murray Counseling, LLC

300 N. Ronald Reagan Blvd. Ste. 219
Longwood, FL 32750
[email protected]

My approach to counseling.  Mostly, I utilize what is referred to as Person-Centered approach. Person-Centered uses warmth, empathy, and non-judgmental approach to listen to a client's story, get to know the client and walk with them on their healing journey. This way the client and counselor can work together to help the client build resilence, gain insight and understanding of their problems. This approach minimizes  the amount a client may have to return to counseling in the future for the same problem.

For personality disorders such as Narcissistic Personality Disorder I utilize Schema Therapy which puts a strong emphasis on unmet childhood needs that manifest in adulthood.

For Borderline Personality Disorder, I utilize Dialectical Behavior Therapy, also known as DBT. This approach is specific to Borderline Personality, howeverthis approach can also used for those who have difficulty regulating strong emotions and occasionally in addictions.

Areas of specialization?

  • Codependency: While this is not a diagnosable condition, codependency is a learned behavior that is usually passed down from one family generation to another. Codependency is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy and mutually satisfying relationship. Also known as the “relationship addiction” as people with codependency often maintain relationships that are emotionally destructive and frequently abusive. Codependents tend to have a high frequency of relationships with Narcissists, Addictions and Sociotpathics due to being easily manipulated by these personality types. You can read more on my blog, The Codpendent Connection located at the end of this web page.

  • Narcissism: A personality type that presents as grandiose and self importance. Often they believe they should be treated with special consideration without commensurate achievments. Believes that they are special and unique requiring excessive admiration. Strong sense of entitlement along with unreasonable expectations. Expects automatic compliance and favorable treatment from others. Severe lack of empathy toward others and fakes compassion. Frequently takes advantage of others to acheive their own desires, especially those who are needy of affection such as a codependent or a borderline personality person. They will often rage when they do not get their way. Inability to identify or understand how their actions are/or may affect others leading to the appearance of being cold or aloof. Shows arrogant and haughty behaviors toward others and often envious of, or believes others are envious of them without merit of such accusations.

  • Borderline Personality: Personality type that has emotional regulation difficulty. Especially in relationships where emotions become very difficult to manage triggered from childhood abuse or other issues. Those in relationship with a Borderline often report that a "I love you, I hate you" pattern (also known as "splitting") becomes obvious and for that reason may become confused with Bipolar disorder. The borderline struggles with a deep internal fear of abandonment and therefore will try to emotionally control the realtionship through suicidal threats or self harm acts. On occasion their anger becomes rage followed by deep sorrow within a short amount of time. Self harm may include substance abuse, addictions and eating disorders. Borderlines struggle with identity issues and may dress or have appearance that looks extreme or often change. At times they may have paranoid ideation and extreme cases involve dissociative (dissconnected from reality) experiences.

  • Trauma & Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD): I utilize a process know as Accelerated Resolution Therapy. This process helps trauma victims diffuse and replace distressful images formed in trauma situations. Often this is found in those involved with warfare, accidents, rape victims or other situations that leave disturbing thoughts and feelings. This would include recovery from sexual, emotional and physical abuse.

  • Military Veterans: As an Army Veteran myself (Infantry), I welcome Veterans, Active Duty and their families from all branches from any era served. I understand the strong bonds the military community builds with each other, the trust, understanding that is involved with this population. Additionally, I grew up a Navy Dependent and have seen many parts of the world as my father spent 30 years in that profession. This provides an additional understanding of the military family and it's unique needs and community insight.

  • Substance Abuse/Use Disorders: Motivation is everything to live a sober life. To be seen for substance abuse you must be sober, AND,  have completed a minimum of a 30 day recovery program within the last 90 days. Evidence of rehab program completion will be requested prior to beginning counseling. This is a firm requirement which is a therapeutic boundary within itself. I do not drug test, however if I feel you are under the influence during sessions I may terminate the session. I utilize what is known as SMART RECOVERY to help you get on track with a more heathy and healing way of life. Letters for the courts, or community officer are billed separately for a $45 fee. Phone calls to parole and/or community officers are no charge.