Narcissistic Abuse Recovery 

Brian Murray, LMHC specializes in helping people who find themselves in a relationship with someone who is narcissistic break free from those relationships and enter into sustained recovery. 

Information About Narcissistic Abuse

What Is Narcissism?

Narcissistic Abuse

Narcissism Warning Signs

Narcissists are extremely self-centered people. Everything is all about them in relationships, conversations, work life, at home, as the condition is pervasive in all areas of their life. They are very grandiose, lack empathy, usually success and power driven, think they are special and should be treated as such as they require excessive admiration. They have a strong sense of entitlement and takes advantage of others. Most often they are initially recognized through their arrogant behaviors while seemingly trying to be charming.
Narcissistic abuse is basically psychological abuse and presents in 3 ways; emotional, sexual and physical for power and control over others. Emotional is most common and is often present in the form of Gaslighting. This is a common technique used by twisting stories and information up to the point that the victim remains confused about the truth and reality of what is happening in certain situations. This way the narcissist can remain in control. This is especially common in relationships and marriage.
The best way to guard and protect yourself from a narcissist is to educate yourself about their behavior traits. Narcissists are often drawn toward people who feed their ego. Codependents and people who have codependent behaviors such as children of alcoholics have personality types that have a strong desire to be loved. This sets up the perfect storm with a narcissist as the codependent will feed the narcissist's ego in order to get loved in return. Usually after time the codependent will wise up to what is going on by not getting the unconditional love they crave and begins to investigate what is going on. This is usually when counseling enters the picture and the narcissist becomes exposed.

A Word Of Caution

Narcissistic Traits

Too many times as a counselor I have seen a spouse send another spouse into counseling to get their Narcissisism "fixed." Please know that all of us have some Narcissistic traits. Just because we have some of these does not necessarily qualify us to be a Narcissist. Evaluation of symptoms and meeting clinical criteria is what establishes a base-line for Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I have met many, actually very nice, people who were sent to my office for their Narcissism by a loved one. In fact, I have seen more Narcissists as a result of meeting with the spouse who sent their spouse. It's funny how that works. So please, before making a Google diagnosis, or looking at the lists I have provided here and getting it locked into your mind that, in fact, you are involved with a Narcissist, please contact a licensed professional counselor to help you make this final determination.
Narcissists have some traits that give them away. Looking back you can usually see the patterns. Some examples include: rushing intimacy, love bombing, chronic lying, cheating, twist your words, story changes, controlling-especially with anger, always right about everything. These are just a few examples while there are literally dozens more that you may experience being involved with one.